Fact or Fiction...African Men Cheat
I remember in high school, when we were done exams, we'd huddle our tables up and talk about 'stuff'
One being what would you do if your husband cheated.
So many people ran their mouths, but in the end, undoubtedly when faced with the scenario, I doubt anyone of them would have carried out their threats.
A lot of older women I spoke to replied like, 'yea, duh, they'll cheat, you just have to roll over and pretend it didnt happen. You're the one with the ring!'
But still, is that grounds for cheating?
I hold the sanctity of marriage under the oath you take before God, but then the Bible said that infidelity is the sin that unbinds us.
So is it a fact, based on the insecurity of women who dont want to fight, who are beginning to think 'Well if I leave him, where would I go?'
Is it a fact that, 'Men have this urge to conquer, to overcome their prey and when the challenge is a sexy secretary thats playing hard to get, they must show her otherwise?'
I personally, cannot stand cheating, right after beating a girl, is cheating.
I'd rather you walk away from me, than come and tell me to my face that you cheated, there is no better way to rip my heart out.
Like my brother always says, you dont 'just cheat'. Its not like you stumble into someone and you've cheated!
Think about it though there is a process.
You see the girl, and then think it over in your head, imagine what she would be like, then you open a line of communication, till you both get to a point where your are ripe for the deed.
This is why I would get mad, this is my reason to say I'd break up with you: Are you freaking telling me that at any point in that process, you didnt even think of your wife and the commitment you made to her? Even up to the point of having sex with her, foreplay, getting a condom, you dont even remember your wife, who you usually do this with?NOT ONCE!are you seriiious?
See thats disrespect to me, Chai, even thinking about it is hurting me!lol!
Out with you mehn! Thats me!I dont like it when people do things to me, that i know i respect them too much to do
I have heard a lot of guys rationalize why they have cheated, and all i hear is 'selfish,selfish, selfish!'
True too, not all guys cheat, but the problem is, its hard to like a fruit when you remember the day it almost choked you to death.
So is it a fact?, should women turn a blind eye and accept it as their fate?
What's peculiar is that when i asked guys, what they would do if their girlfriends cheated, they were so fast to say that they would cut her off, sharp sharp; and that got me confused because when i asked girls, some said, 'yea, we're done' but then the others sympathetically either blamed themselves or said they'll forgive.
What compels women to be sooooo 'understanding' that guys dont have?
Fiction? is it?
Is the sin of one man, mounted of rooftops? Am I over-exaggerating? Is it society that expects little from men, and so they in turn dont hesitate to disappoint at the drop of a hat
Dont get me wrong, I'm not saying that women dont cheat, in fact i think they are more tactful when they do, but I can assure you 95% of women who cheat, were cheated on and are carrying out a cycle of revenge!
And isnt it retarded how men cheat on women with people they know.
Like a girl he met at work, who just lost everything; and then your wife goes out of her way to buy her stuff, get her all settled and thats who you shag?
Or a mutual friend who just came into town for an appointment and your girl trusts you soooooooooooooooooo much she says, the girl could sleep over at your place since she is stranded, and you cheat with her?
C'mon mehn....if its a fact that men really cannot control themselves, and have this natural urge to spread their wings, I fear what they would turn women to...
When they prey becomes predator? hmmm......